Do you or other people blame you for the unhappiness of others?
Are you having the same argument over and over again?
Do you wonder if you're the one "going crazy" or perhaps others accuse you of being "too sensitive"?
Do you experience Gaslighting or false accusations? Push-pull or black and white behaviors from those around you?
Are you constantly second guessing yourself?
Do you fear for your safety and/or suppress your anger?
Were you raised or are you in relationship with a Narcissist or one of the other types of personality disordered people?
Are you or someone you care about suffering from the effects of drugs or alcohol?
Do you worry that you'll never find true peace of mind or never know your real purpose?
Is it hard for you to trust people? Do you have anyone to talk to who listens with interest and curiosity and doesn't judge you?
As a solution-focused Licenced Psychotherapist, Relationship Coach and Consultant with over 30 years of experience serving Santa Cruz, I know that, often, learning simple strategies and tools can create the change needed to, not merely survive, but tothrive.
Through a Masters Program in Social Work at San Jose State U, with a focus on psychiatric social work/ addiction and codependency, a Coaching Certification Program with Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks, a multitude of workshops ranging from a 10 day silent meditation retreat, years of reading and application of the Enneagram, a personality system that adds insight and clarity to one's understanding of self and others, Expressive Arts Therapy week long courses with Natalie Rogers, daughter of Dr. Carl Rogers, the study of Dealth and Dying with Steven Levine and Bob Stahl, I have acquired a variety of skills and methods to get to the heart of your concerns with compassion and clarity. I treat each client as a unique, valuable individual, accessing and offering tools to address concerns and use a variety of modalities including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (looking at the way we think and how we are behaving to see if our thoughts/beliefs/ need updating), attention to your specific Attachment style,
12 steps process (taken originally from Alcoholics Anonymous, the 12 steps have helped millions of people who have addiction/ Codependency problems....and, NO, you don't have to believe in God, you just have to let go of trying to control everything yourself!), Educational Models (a variety of simple tools to help educate and simplify the way we problem understand interactions), the Enneagram personality type ( a brilliant system studied all over the world in Universities, Colleges, Personal Growth Groups, helping to see how personality plays a part in our actions and inactions), EFT (better known as "tapping", a process of retraining the way our brain deals with trauma and troubles and learning a way to give it something more beneficial to do).
If you wondering if Substance Abuse , Codependency , Emotional Abuse , Grief, the effects of living with a Sociopath and/or Narcissist, in some circles, referred to as Narcissistic Victim Syndrome, have created obstacles to your sense of contentment and confidence, please contact me. If you are ready to get unstuck from your history and experience the peace of mind that is your birthright, it is probably the right time to reach out.
Please call me at 831-252-6000 or email me for an individual consultation today. Online or by phone.